Learning to Resolve Conflict

From time to time you may find yourself in a clash with somebody, it happens to us all at some stage. You can put into practice the methods you have learned for stopping the exchange getting out of hand with behaviours such as screaming, shouting and aggression. Even then, though, you can still have an unresolved situation that can fester.  If you have both taken time on your own to cool off then the situation is still up in the air and will need some further dialogue to put things back on an even keel.  If you decided to stay and talk, the quarrel still needs to be sorted out in one way or another.

Release Anger Constructively

Ok, so sometimes the only way to deal with anger is to let it out….all of it. But how do you do that without causing damage to someone or something, or so as not to cause yourself embarrassment with the people around you? The first thing is to realise that this is your problem, noone elses, and you have to deal with it yourself in a healthy manner and a way that is fair to those around you!! You have to find constructive ways of releasing your emotions. There are a few ways you can do this so try them out and see which ways suit you best.

Controlling Stress

Why are you stressed??

This is the crux of the issue, you may already know why you’re stressed and just need to find ways to deal with it but like many, maybe you have never really had the chance to analyse your life to figure out what’s causing you all this tension. If this is the case then you really need to identify ALL the stressors in your life and find out which ones are causing the problems. Bear in mind that we all have stress and in fact need a certain amount, as otherwise why would we bother getting up in the morning at all? What you are looking for here are things that are playing on your mind all the time, upsetting you and making you tense up.

Assertiveness Training

How many times has your angry outburst been because you don’t know how to say no effectively or haven’t been able to deal with a very demanding person? Maybe you put up with them continually asking you for something or letting them load you with extra work which builds up your stress levels.

Even just knowing that you let other people get the better of you can lead to built up resentments and issues of self esteem. You may hold your temper most of the time but then all of a sudden you snap and all hell breaks loose.

Coping with Someone Elses Anger

Most of the articles on this site are focused on the person who feels and then acts out the anger. This is because it is important to realise that someone can only change if they want to, and that no matter how hard you may wish someone else’s behaviour will change, unless they set out to change it themselves, then it is just a waste of time.  But what if you’re the one who is suffering because of someone else’s behaviour?  What can you do?

Hypnotherapy for Anger Control

What is hypnotherapy?

Well, it’s a therapy that brings the person to a lower state of consciousness by relaxing them and concentrating their awareness. When in this very relaxed state, the hypnotherapist can plant suggestions into your subconscious mind and so it becomes easier to change your behaviour.

During your first visit you will tell the therapist what the problem you are having is. They will ask you some questions to find out what type of situations are likely to induce the behaviour that you want to change. Your answers will be very revealing as to what type of suggestions are fed to you through the therapy session. The more honest and forthcoming you are, the more the hypnotherapist can help you.

Positive Thought Techniques for Anger Control

Have you ever heard the phrase “we are what we eat”? Well it should be “we are what we think”. Our thoughts if channelled correctly can be very powerful, for good or for bad.

It is very obvious how negative thoughts affect us. They can hold us back from being successful in our careers or any other endeavours we may dream about. You may have noticed that some people seem to naturally have the ability to do something while others hesitate, worry and tell all around them that they don’t think they will be able to do it. They put forward all kinds of reasons for this but fail to recognise that it is their own fear driven by their thought pattern that is really holding them back. The people who just get up and do things are not clouding their minds with negative thoughts and saying that they can’t, they just believe that they can.

8 Point Plan for Controlling Anger

1. Recognising Stress
Recognising that stress is a major contributor and underlying cause of anger is an important first step. Learning how to reduce stress in your life will inevitably lead to less anger. How can you reduce stress? Well first you must identify what areas of your life are causing you stress from there it is a matter of working out how to minimise it. Stress is when a person perceives that the pressures or demands they are experiencing exceed their ability to cope.  Often stress creeps up on us, it is one thing piled on top of another and often we don’t even recognise that it is stress and we just end up feeling ill or having very sharp tempers with others.

Anger – What’s that all about?

Do you slam down the phone in work when you do not get your own way in a conversation?

Have you gotten into a shouting match with a stranger over a parking space?

Ever thrown your phone at the wall during an argument with your spouse?

If so, then you really need to learn some anger management skills…

Anger is a natural emotion; though it’s something that we need to keep in check.

Instead of expressing your anger in a healthy and assertive way, if you’re breaking things and scaring people then you’re expressing it in a hostile, aggressive and even a violent manner.  That’s not good!